We grow up…Our fears and our dreams change.....but we still believe....in fact eventually WE believe in ourselves!! We remember when we sat on Daddy's knee and he told us we could be ANYTHING we ever wanted to be!! It was no different than sitting on Santa's lap and knowing he would deliver .... There was never a doubt....we believed.
Do you remember sitting on Daddy's knee and believing.....YOU could be ANYTHING you wanted?
Now look at yourself today. Did you become what you believed you could be? Did you? How about you?
Some of us have. Some of us haven't. Some of us simply stopped believing. Why? Can you imagine what it feels like to suddenly realize, you don't believe in our world, our people....that you don't believe in you?
There can be a million reasons why we stop believing we can be and do whatever we want in this world. Sometimes it is self inflicted through self doubt and we simply stop trying.
Eventually in our lives, many of us need to restart. There are many more of us than we could imagine. Only restarting isn't as simple as when you were starting out as a child. As a child you had those around you to teach you love, support, and dreams. Restarting must start from within. You must dig deep and you must find the you who used to believe.
So restarting is a journey....let's look at what is involved in this journey.....it all depends on where you are in your life version of starting over....so I will detail mine......and mine is gentle compared to most I regularly encounter...
1. On the day I found out my "spark" , my will to be alive, was about to dim permanently....after 18 years of learning to hide......I stood up.
13. I had to learn to say no to someone I trusted to take care of not only me,....I trusted to take care of our children.
I learned that sometimes, the Boogey Man is the person we thought we trusted most in this world.
Like most women, I hid our circumstances until I collapsed with starvation. I was working 3 jobs and could not afford the babysitters, food, mortgage, heat, hydro, telephone, car, insurance.....or …Christmas.
I worked so much that I became ill. Following a long bout with Scarlet Fever, I stood up again. I felt as of I had been kicked for my efforts. Still, I stood stronger. I moved forward. I had to learn, one of the scariest lessons in life.....to ask for help....
So what happened with my children? They were of course my prime concern, yet I rotated babysitters to accommodate the need for me to work three jobs to pay for food, home & transportation. There are things "safe" children take for granted in life. There are things my children were required to "overcome" "surpass" and "deliver" .
Life wasn’t horrible, we were free, but it was unnecessarily difficult. What we expect amongst the working poor became a normal to us. I for one never thought I would ever be categorized with the "welfare people" or the "working poor" yet I have been both now for 9 years.
This is where we learn to stand.
Okay...so enough of this. I think you understand.....self worth/self realization is a journey. It is a struggle. For those who have endured, for those who have succeeded and for those who have been fortunate enough never to have experienced.....YOU have invited me here to discuss........what is next.
However following 9 years of self doubt....after 9 years of attempting to rebuild my self worth, of attempting to restart my life....I am still standing! Because I am standing first and foremost as a mom....who's children adore her....who's children have overlooked the trappings of today's society and realize their own self worth, their families worth...and they believe in themselves. Not because of what I have told them, but because they have fought for themselves, they have discovered their worth...a worth no one will ever be able steal from them.
Today I also stand before you as a woman who believes. Everything I do, everyday is a result of my belief in God, my belief in my world, my belief in my community, and my belief in me.
Our strongest leaders in our history have stood up and announced their beliefs in God, in our Country, in our People and in themselves. I may not be a strong leader....but I believe. Today I came here to talk to you because I believe in women.
In February of this year, I had my company incorporated. Glass Tower Offices Corporation. The mission is to provide women with the tools to improve their quality of life through education, health and wellness. When we are well, spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally...we progress. Today is about progress.
I am going to assume you asked me here to talk with you today, not only to hear of my struggles, of my failures...but to hear of my successes? GTOC...Glass Tower Offices Corporation is my success. Within this corporation, we have the ability to address women's issues, to inject positive influences on a regular supportive basis and to approach our politicians to acknowledge the deficiencies in our system.
I am approaching you, our community to discuss how we as a community cannot only improve upon and support the efforts of our women but also we can openly discuss with our politicians the need for them to openly support our women. While we recognize their inability to provide funding to support our women,...can they not verbally support our efforts to assist our women in their struggles to better quality of life? Or is that politically incorrect? What about you? Are you not sitting in the audience today amongst your peers wondering...what can I do? I am simply me? I am only one.
So am I. I am simply me. A mom. A mom who still struggles every day to feed her children. A mom who believes in women. Women who deserve our support of their efforts to self sustainability. And we all have the duty to assist in one way or another.
This past week I had the sad occasion to witness one of our own fail. I cannot help everyone. I do try. Most nights I lie awake in cold sweats searching the depths of my mind for how I can do more. Sometimes we have done everything possible and must accept our failures. Sometimes, we know with more structure we could have done more, with more support, one of our own would not have failed, sometimes we must stand up and recognize....it is time to engage.
It has become "the time" to stand up as a community and let our own struggling women know that they are worth every effort. So it is your turn. Glass Tower Offices has created the structure based upon experience within the Social Assistance System...to "fill the gaps"....to assist those women struggling for better quality of life. In our community, what is your role....what is your duty? Stand up and engage.
You are an integral part of an influential group. Make yourself and your efforts for our community's women known. Start talking. Start assisting. Start.
I am simply one. You, as a group, hold the power to make yourselves, your efforts known. You as a group can ensure others within our community stand up. Communication is your tool, Knowledge is your tool, Following through is your goal.
As I child, I had never met a divorced person. As an adult, it is difficult for me to encounter couples that have remained within their first marriages. Times have changed.
Communications have changed and our world has changed. As women, we have transitioned, we have become empowered to influence positive change for our next generations. Do we struggle simply to maintain the struggle of our daughters, or do we stand up? Do we reach forward and invite others to do the same? Do we lead the path to influence a system that will progressively assist those women whose struggles we support? … I can tell you, I am.
The two greatest words to put forth are "I am"
I am a beautiful woman,
Together we can say,
I am a part of a community that will educate our youth to stand, to positively engage, to not lose their self worth.
I am an influence on my elected politician to affect the system to ensure a positive affect is put in place to support the efforts of our Community's women struggling for better quality of life for themselves and for their children.
Today I ask you to stand up. To step forward and to ask me....what can I do? What can we do as a group? What next?
To everyone who stands up and steps forward with the question,...what can I do?....I ask...What is your passion? What do you enjoy?....Where do you want to make a difference? It might be artistic, it might be financial, it might be educational.
In closing there is a heart warming experience I want to re-experience with you today. Last month I was asked to start communicating with a mother and daughter that were being evicted from a house/cottage, fantastic location but with no heat, no hydro, no phone and no food...and barely enough gas to get them to the hospital when the daughter became deathly ill. I put forth an opportunity for our community to stand up and deliver one item of food from each of their cupboards...and they did. In abundance. Those who could only give one,...gave one....those who could give much...did. This is our role as a community. We give and do of yourselves. The mother and daughter have struggled greatly and are now on a very slow upward curve to better quality of life. What did they need? the necessity of nourishment but also the hope and belief that their community, without ever meeting them...believed in them, that their community believed in their worth when our government system did not.
It is the Christmas season and this story inspires me. When requested, our community steps positively forward. Up until 9 years ago, I was one of those seemingly "lucky women" with the perfect family that rarely stepped forward to be involve in community.
So Today, thank you for asking me to talk with you. Today I can tell you....I stood up. Today I can tell you ....it's your turn to stand up. We all have a sister, aunt, mother, grandmother, niece, daughter, neighbor, co-worker, struggling for better quality of life.